Sunday 16 June 2013

Lost & Found

Lost & Found
I remember that night as if it was yesterday, clear and vivid. I walked out of the railway station alone, with only my handbag. I was lost in my own thoughts and moved along the path that was unfamiliar. It was late and I could see only a handful of people on the road. It was both scary and comforting to see a few fellow humans on the road. Scary- as in what if there was someone lurking in the dark and comforting that it was not totally void of humans. A girl does feel scared to walk the road, with the fear of being abducted or even further sinister consequences. At that time, I didn’t know precisely where to go, so I had to pick one of the paths from the rest.
From a distance, I heard muffled noises, as if somebody was playing loud music and the door being opened and closed at discrete intervals. I tracked the sound and walked slowly keeping a watch all around. The population increased as I approached the source of the sound. I felt happy and approached the bar.
There were many people crammed in that place, some were seated and some stood tall. Most of them had a drink in their hand. I browsed through the fellow associates who had occupied the bar at the same time. There were some very pretty ladies with lesser clothes. Their hair went in all directions and not one of them looked odd. They simply looked stunning and beautiful. They were raising toast for every drink that was placed on their table and they even shouldered all the men in whose company they found peace and happiness. Some women were older and I wasn’t sure if they had come in with their husbands. Maybe their better halves were at someplace else more important than this bar.
Few of them were boys and girls and I didn’t know if they should be allowed to enter and share drinks. I shouldn’t be allowed too, but somehow I sneaked passed the security guards. There were others who seemed like office goers and had come there because it was a weekend. They were talking intellectual and most of their topic was related to ‘how to grow financially’ or ‘which company could make them happier’. If there was another topic it had to be of ‘girls’. There were other old gentlemen who were having this air of superiority to go with the hefty amounts deposited in the bank accounts. There were carefully watching the crowd that had turned up that day and simultaneously having their usual conversation.
I took a peek of my own. Most of the people were indulged in their own drinks and the way their life had spanned. I further looked at them all. After careful observation I saw a man, probably in his mid-thirties. He was wearing a rimless frame with lenses that were not over excessively expensive. He wore a dark blue collared t-shirt to go with the even darker shade of denims. He was with two of his friends. He looked a little nervous maybe because he wasn’t drinking, while all the others around him were reeking of alcohol, cluttering their glasses and shouting ‘Cheers’. He kept looking at this watch as if he had to be somewhere else. Something worried him that was missing among all the other occupiers of the bar.
As I was glanced and made my own assumptions about the person, he appeared to catch me unguarded. Within that moment our eyes were in line and nothing seemed to come in between. He saw my eyes- and I saw his. He gave a look of concern as well as misperception. Maybe he was confused regarding the next step he should take. Our eyes didn’t blink and we kept watching each other. He sensed the melancholy that had filled my heart. I saw his look change from partially confused to fully concerned. Within a split second, he put down his soft drink.
He signalled to his friends about my existence, but before his companions could spot me I hid myself behind a wall. He kept pointing out in my direction, but his friends were least bothered. After a minute he gave up too. He retired to his drink but there was still my image at the back of his mind, I could sense it as he looked even more worried than before. He knew it and I knew it as well. The entire time I was out-alone and indecisive on the next step. But, when I glanced at him I knew within that one very moment that this man in picture is the one man I wanted to be with.
I took another glimpse from the corner of my eye and he was still searching for me. I knew it that it was right and I could not afford to waste time. I made up my mind to meet him and talk to him. The next moment I took a look at his table and he was gone. I felt bad and lonely, just the same way how I had been feeling the entire night. Probably he had gone to the place he was worried about, but I hadn’t seen him heading for the exit. I had lost the time and now it seemed that it was hard to make up for it. ‘The door of opportunity knocks only once’, this saying was coming to be true. I stood and scanned the entire bar once again and still there was no sign of him.
Could I walk up to his friends and ask them about his whereabouts? Probably that would be a bad decision as they didn’t seem as noble as he was. I was scared and looked for him everywhere. It took about another thirty seconds before I saw him reappear in my range of vision. Apparently he had gone to the washroom. I didn’t want to waste another precious moment and I took rather lengthy stride making advancements in his direction. I slowly reached in his vicinity without him even noticing me. I mustered all courage and touched his arm. He saw me and rose without any hesitation. He signalled his friends and took me outside.
He asked my name and the reason I was there. I told him everything and it took me roughly seven minutes to give him my story. He looked me in the eyes and embraced me. The warm embrace felt very assuring and I knew that my decision was right. He was the right man. He held me with a tight grip as he walked towards his car. He abruptly ended his party and took me home. His house wasn’t far from the bar and we reached there in no time. On the way we picked up dinner for both of us. We entered the house silently and tip toed our way to the kitchen.
He withdrew two plates from the drawer and placed it carefully on the dining table, making no sounds. I sat on a chair and saw him doing all the needful. We didn’t speak much during the late hour dinner. After us both finished our dinner he asked me for anything else that I wanted. I bluntly replied no and asked him where the bedroom was. It had been a difficult day it was better to end it with a smile on the face and a bloated stomach. He walked me into one of the rooms. He carefully switched on the lights and brought me closer to the bed. Thence, he pulled the quilt and told me to stand closer to the bed.

With a slight shrug he woke up the person sleeping on that bed and said “Son, from today this is your younger sister and her name is Alisha”.

Saturday 8 June 2013

Mother.

Hello mother, my mother, can you hear me?
I haven’t slept in a while and I didn’t want this to be,
Behind this pantomime, I have become a body of inevitable lie,
Constantly terrified and this is not what you wished for me.

Oh mother, tell me now, what to do and who to be?
Battling this life, I am frequently and decisively intrigued.
Behind this network of masks, still lies your child,
Helplessly alone, thinking about you all the time.

Tell me mother, if a wrong can be made into a right,
Will my past frequent me with torment and dismay?
Or will my sins come undone for an emotionless final foray.
Oh! How I wish you would be here, but you, you are so far away.

Forgive me mother, for I tried my best and yet I have failed,
All your teachings and education have gone in vain,
Its time to sanctify my soul and liberate my mind to pasteurise the fate,
Please don’t wait by the door tomorrow, because I will be late.

Thursday 6 June 2013

FEAR



Fear- an emotion experienced in anticipation of some specific pain or danger (usually accompanied by a desire to flee or fight).
To be true, we all have our own fears to deal with. Some face it every day, while some encounter them once in a while. Some of them can be overcome, but some persist for the rest of our lives. I remember I had a fear of addressing people from the stage. I have gone blank a couple of times, but now I have overcome, by gradually practising it. But, fear of getting an electric shock still gives me torrid times. These are fears that the mind has perceived and they will continue to stay there until we fight them out. Similarly, there are fears that are planted in our head. (For induced fear I would like you to watch a video called Little Albert. Although it was an inhumane experiment, psychologists believe it as a breakthrough).
Let’s say, when we were young we were all taught not to play with the gas stove or we might get burnt. Our mothers have enacted that to us, or to most of us. That fear had resided in our mind unless we figured it out that was not entirely true. As time passed by, we came to a comprehension that if we are careful we will not suffer burns from a gas stove.
This was just an example which is actually unimportant. This fear was placed in our head so that we could be safe. Whereas, some fears are introduced to us by people we don’t know. I remember, when I was young, my father always brought home Colgate toothpaste for all of us. The plain and simple white coloured toothpaste. Our entire family used that until we saw an advertisement from Pepsodent. They pointed it out that most of us suffer from bleeding gum problems. The next I found out that it was true. Blood did ooze out from my gums. The more I saw the ad the more I was tensed. So, after a huge debate I convinced my father that Pepsodent-G gum care was the best toothpaste and we needed it for the safety of our gums.
6 months down the line, the blood was still oozing from the gums and I thought as far as it doesn’t pain, its fine. After some time, I saw another ad- this time it was my favourite cricketer Sachin Tendulkar endorsing the brand. The toothpaste was talking about its relentless twelve hour fight against the bacteria and we had to brush twice a day to keep our teeth healthy. So my father and I had another debate, but this time I was unsuccessful to convince him that Colgate Total was better. He instead reverted to the traditional ‘Laal Dant Manjan’ for himself. So, I was left with my last resort- to convince my brother that we needed a change in the department of dental care. He agreed, and we got our first Colgate Total toothpaste. Expensive than most of the other toothpastes and the work it did was same that of the normal Colgate. Few more years passed and then there were many kinds of problems that were aired on the TV- plaque, bacteria, gum problems, cavity and sensitivity. I don’t bleed through the gums now, and I have changed my toothpaste so many times that I don’t even remember which one did the magic. Or was it just the fear that was planted?
Then there was the case with shampoos. To be frank, when I was twelve years old I never used a shampoo. It’s only after the ads in the TV that people were suddenly educated. They found out the problems in their hair.  Thin hair, dandruff, breakage and baldness were the problems pictured to us. Every six months the product companies come up with some new revolution and tried selling their products.
The list goes on- from deodorant spray (frankly I haven’t seen one advertisement that shows the features of a deodorant, all they end up showing is a boy who ends up with girls) to cooking oil.
Fear is a big weapon that these companies use to sell their product. Take for example the detergents, all the detergents show ads cleaning the white shirts- none of them show cleaning a coloured clothing. With clothing I remember what the brand and media has done to us. If we buy a t shirt for 1500, we are proud. We will buy a pair of shoes for 2000, with our heads held high. But, when the time comes to donate a rupee to a beggar, we are overburdened by the weight of life and shoo them off. Same goes for mineral water, they are pure, and we should drink them. Don’t use the ear buds they are made from used hospital cotton, instead use Johnson and Johnson ear buds, it will cost you ten times more, but you will be safe.
Don’t drink sugarcane juice; the ice is bought from a morgue. Paint your nails and look glamorous or else no boy will approach you. Drink carbonated water to quench your thirst, but they don’t mention that it contains caffeine. Don’t wash your face with soap, apply face wash. If it is dry then apply moisturiser (of the same company of course). Use the great fair and lovely cream to be fairer and beautiful. Are they serious? They sell us cream which will make us fairer! Somebody has a conflict with their pigmentation. Wasn’t it natural the way God built you? These petty things have put fear in our hearts and it has become difficult to lead a simple life we use to live when we were young.
The media is jointly to be blamed for this- my father owns a general store, after the sensitivity problems were aired on the television by Sensodyne, the next day, every customer wanted Sensodyne. I have even seen parents buying fruits for their children. It’s a nice thought, fruits are source of vitamins, but the same family ends up dining at McDonalds, munching burgers and putting on fat.
Now I don’t say that you should not eat in McDonalds or restrain yourself from using branded high priced tooth pastes, or for that matter clothes. I am just saying that there is vast difference in being literate and educated. All of you who are reading this are literates, but are we educated? Sadly the answer is no on most of our parts. Do we fold the wrappers of eatables and place it in our pockets when we don’t see a dustbin? No! We throw it on the road. As long as our houses are clean to hell with the environment. This is the new attitude people are carrying.
We have convinced ourselves that education means reading and writing in English. Well, let me direct your attention towards China, very advanced and they use their own language everywhere. I see young children in the malls taking in English. I am impressed, young cheerful lads and lasses talking in beautiful English. Mothers tend to propagate this English attitude. But, when asked about their mother tongue, they hardly know a thing. This is also fear- fear of competing with the others at school.
Actually, the answer lies within you- will you educate yourself around the things that are thrown at you or simply squat and waste money, logic and brains buying things you don’t need? Meanwhile, I have changed my toothpaste to the simple Colgate and I use any shampoo that is available- because I need to wash my hair, I try not to use those which damage my hair and rest everything is fine. I don’t use deodorants because I don’t want girls falling for me (pun intended). I do eat sometimes at McDonalds and KFC and also buy branded clothes because I earn so much money I have to spend it somewhere. And whenever I see a beggar I take care to give him/her some amount so that they are happy.
“Let not fear consume you, let education fill your mind so that you consume your fears”
                                                                                                                        ~Mjkgupta.