My Choice.

So these people are at it again. One video has created massive outrage throughout the country and every keyboard warrior is out on the streets of the internet mocking, spreading hateful messages and ridiculing Deepika. They are making their voices heard and stamping their authority to say that this video is wrong in so many levels and dimensions. There was a news too where a man was found peeing in public and he was heard stating that that was his choice.

Freedom of speech is granted by the constitution, but you don’t go and abuse your father do you? Do you challenge the constitution of India and demand that you should have a right to abuse whoever you want? You don’t.

“It is my choice if I want to have sex outside of marriage”- this is the statement that has hauled every so called lunatic out of his shell and onto the streets. Men can’t take it if women start to rise and say things like this. In this country women are not equal to men, I agree to that. Women are not equal to men. They are far superior in the aspects of life.

It’s has always been about men in this world. The history, the evolution, the wars, the destruction, the guns, the murders, the drugs, the killing and the mayhem on this planet we call ‘Mother Earth’. Have you ever given it a thought as to why it is mother earth and not father earth? It’s plain and simple- had it been a male he would have destroyed himself long time back. It’s the patience of the women that is tested time and again and on multiple occasions. These male chauvinists who claim that women are being given too much liberty should go fuck themselves.

It’s always been about dicks to these men. The bigger dick will rule the world. USA bombing other countries, just to prove that they have bigger dicks. They tried it with Russia, but hey, Russians have big dicks too, so they started a cold war. Everywhere it has been these men who have created violence and destruction in the life of other humans. All the wars till date have been fought primarily by men. The evilest men that this earth has seen have been men, be it Hitler or Stalin. So why the sense of pride if I may ask? Why is there a bloated ego that you are a man and you have a right to do things? Well, for your information, you don’t.

Let’s come to the topic of women empowerment. Most of you would have never heard about Maggie Doyne. Look up in Wikipedia, you will know about her. She is an American citizen living in Nepal. She had opened an orphanage there to take care of the orphans who had no one to support them after the civil war. She started with the orphanage, now she has a school where there are around fifty students. She has a health clinic too. She helps women by teaching them the art of sewing. She teaches them to be independent and self-reliant. She teaches them to read and write in English. Together these women are learning the art of doing something useful that can not only help themselves but also their families. This is called empowerment. These women who would have otherwise not done anything are now learning ways of life.

Women empowerment is not a video by Vogue. Vogue magazine that portrays slim, well maintained female models showing their body, cannot be the source of empowerment. Empowerment refers to increasing the spiritual, political, social or economic strength of individuals and communities. It does not refer to the flaunting of sexuality. It does not mean wearing a set of clothes, having sex with someone, returning home late. To be frank no one should be even awake at four in the morning let alone returning from somewhere.

The video is an effort to say that women have their choice in terms of sexuality and sex. It has nothing to do with empowerment and it has nothing to do with the people endorsing it. So to the men who think that a women cannot do what she pleases, well neither can you. So stop poking your dick in others matter. My point is that people are being made role models for things that they do not support and feel. Wrong people are being put on TV for wrong things, and we need to stop that. On the other hand being men, we need to say to our dicks- let the brain do all the thinking, you should rise for sex.

To all men, let women be empowered (see the meaning above).

To all women, empowering doesn’t mean you wear the same clothes as men and join the exact corporations that they join and ruin the lives of the others making money and going after materialistic items. Be different. Sexuality is not democracy. You can be more.

Deepika- do shampoo and moisturizer advertisements, don’t make a fool out of yourself coming on youtube and saying you support empowerment. Let’s face it. You don’t.

Maggie- you are the real hero.


Inspired by the words of George Carlin.

The easily excited men of India

Recently on 4^th of March 2015, the official broadcast of the documentary called ‘India’s Daughter’ was blocked by the government of India, 4 days prior its release. The official release was supposed to be broadcasted on NDTV 24X7 on the 8^th of March, on international women’s day. However, due to the court orders BBC had little to no options, so they complied. The documentary was however channeled throughout the UK on BBC four and was soon uploaded on Youtube.com and within no time it went viral. On the 5^th of March the government of India ordered Youtube to block the documentary. Youtube complied as well.

“Do you want a working wife or a housewife”, I asked one of my close friend who was an engineer from a very reputed university of Andhra Pradesh.

“Housewife bhai, you should always marry a housewife. Working women will ruin the house.”

“Oh! How is that so?” I asked trying to dig his thoughts.

“If women start working, who will take care of the house, who will take care of children and who will teach them our customs and traditions.”

My friend was oozing with machismo and I didn’t want to hear from him any further. So I walked away from a pride filled engineer, bloating with male chauvinism. From the brief discussion that I had with him, I could only comprehend two things. First, women do everything from cleaning the house, cooking for the family, raising children, teaching them values and feeding them. Second, and most important, they bear the children.

 I could also infer that all of the men’s activity can also be summed in two broad engagements- earning money and having sex, because obviously rest of the work is taken care of by the women folks.

Coming to the topic of sex, there was an interesting question asked by my biology teacher during the discussion of the chapter called reproduction.

“When is a frog’s birthday?” he asked trying to get an answer. None of us replied as we didn’t know the answer.

“It’s mostly during June and July, because they only reproduce during that time, but in the case of humans, it’s different, humans are always ready. That is the reason people share their birthdays from January to December.”

We all laughed at that time, but that simple example makes so much sense now. Men are always ready to have children, more importantly ready to have sex.

Every 20 minutes a female is raped in India. If that is not a shame for these so called macho hunk dudes, claiming to call themselves ‘MARD’, then I cannot fathom what is? They want a son as a child because a daughter will not take care of them in the future. A son will bring dowry whereas, a girl will siphon all the money during her marriage. That is some utter blasphemy right there, and no matter how hard you try to convince them that women are equal, they will just walk away. I don’t call them educated, I call these sick viruses of the society as literates, because all they can do is read and write. They do not know the difference between right and wrong, all they care about is themselves and their pride.

One of the lawyers from the defense council of the rape accused was ready to burn his own daughter if she had relations with another man before marriage.

Burn her down!! I mean what is she? Is she a paper or a piece of trash? She calls him dad and expects him to be her first line of defense from all harm. But, in return he claims on a documentary that he would burn her if she had relations with other men before marriage! I have no words to describe such a monster. He should be refrained from all sense of family. That might teach him a lesson or two. But I doubt that, these people can feed on their pride and survive for years. They are very close to cockroaches and mosquitos in terms of survival.

Coming back to the topic of sex. There is a quote by George Carlin which needs to be mentioned – “I wonder, does a rapist have a hard-on when he leaves the house in the morning, or does he develop it during the day while he's walking around looking for somebody.” None of the above might be true in all fairness. Some rapes might be planned, like the bastard had nothing to do with his life. But, most of them are out of the misunderstanding that they can get away with it. This is the common misconception they have, and so far it has proved to be more or less true. Thousands of rapes go unreported. Family pride is involved. I say to hell with this family pride and give the devil what he deserves.

I sometimes think why the women don’t lodge a complaint. Sure, there is a thing called family name involved and the omnipresent “neighbors” who always speak at the wrong time. But I really think why they can’t. Then I remembered the police, the doctors and the lawyers are the three worst people you could get tangled to if you want problems in your life. Doctors and lawyers can still be fine, but on an average, I haven’t seen people praising the policemen. I don’t generalize them based on most of them, but the most people would agree with me on that. Oh the policemen, money thirsty government employees. All they crave is money, as if they will be in procession when they die. To tell you the fact the police have the power to stop it. The people have the power to stop it. But nobody is stopping it.

This is the exactly the chance that a rapist needs, a chance to think that he can get away. A chance that he thinks, no one will notice and a chance that everything will be buried in time.

Today, one of the students were denied internship in a German university because the professor was troubled by the amount of rapes that were happening in India and she wanted to ensure that nothing of that sort happened (as we all know from the biology class, that humans are always ready to have sex). This letter went viral. The ambassador to Germany wrote a mail to the professor and she later apologized.

Wait, if you think that is the end of the story then let me tell you more. That wasn’t the end. The easily-troubled middle class erupted on social media to voice their opinions. “Rape the professor”. “Germans are racists”. “Western countries do not have sense”, and so on and so forth. If you haven’t guessed it, these are the aforementioned literates. They only know how to read and write. Applying thought and knowledge they never learned. On one hand they go on to say that you cannot generalize every Indian because some are rapists, and on the other hand they go on and generalize the entire German population as racist, based on the comments made by a single Professor.

10000 people in Nagaland invade a prison and lynch a person who was arrested on rape charges. The public was fast to react. In the words of one of my friend these are “blood thirsty and vengeful public.” They will not sit down and stage a nationwide protest. They can certainly lynch a person who was arrested on charges of rape (he was not convicted yet). Isn’t this the problem of the middle class in India, they will only rise and fight for it, if and only if it is directly hurting them. As long as they are not hurt, everything can lay in its place. This attitude is the main reason that politicians are not put in jail. Corruption is a major problem, hunger is an epidemic, where the rich are getting richer and the poor are getting poorer.

This country, with the large bulk of middle class has given the priority to burgers and not beggars, and if this attitude does not change then there will always be poor people in India who will sleep without food. There will always be rapes in India, where the rapist still thinks he can get away. The police will only act if the government tells it to act. The government will only act when the people force them to act. Every middle class needs to be hurt by every rape so that they understand the pressures and the pain involved in this trauma. It is only then when the nation will hear if we all stand up in one voice and say that this ends today. If a party can come in full majority to win the biggest democratic elections in India playing the middle class card, then I have all the more reasons to be supportive that the same middle class can stand up and fight against the epidemic called rape.

The above was the actual writing that were suppose go online. But, yesterday I read about a rape of a 6 year old. Did she wear less clothes or did she excite him? How did he get turned on by a 6 year old child? I hear of these incidents and think to myself whether we do have freedom. A freedom to say no to a guy’s proposal and not be attacked by acid over our face. No we don’t and sad that we can still pour our fake remorse and empathy over the internet and not take one step towards the betterment of the society in general.

Sister

They thought for months and plied you would not be born,
Kept their fingers crossed and prayed to god till the candles burnt,
They tried more than once, and hoped it wasn’t you this time,
Finding the sex of the foetus is all they wanted to determine. 

They didn’t care about your first cry or the first smile,
They didn’t see your tender hands and feet so fragile,
They didn’t watch over you when you took your first steps,
All they saw was a boy’s face who had to be in your place.

Oh sister, little sister, you have a choice.
Oh sister, little sister, you have a voice.

There is no use they said when you wanted to learn,
Go to the kitchen they said, and make the woods burn,
When you started to play and have some rejoice,
They slapped you in the face and enforced you to devoice.

Oh sister, little sister, you have a choice.
Oh sister, little sister, you have a voice.

So let them try to stop you now, lay hurdles in your path,
Don’t stand down or give ever up, even if the way is black,
Take you stance and fight for your right, as there is a long way to go,
Don’t ever feel helpless and alone, even if they tell you so.

UnMalala

All I wanted- was a father on whose shoulder I could rest my head,
a mother to stand by me, who could teach me the ways of life.

All I wanted, was to be a sapient and read a few books,
to learn a little, and to know a little more,
Talk what I felt was right in the country so frail,
And to go to school with my friends not covered in veil.

All I wanted, was to have a little freedom,
Wear the things I like, and dance to my rhythm.

All I ever wanted, was to be at peace even in a state of war,
Strive ahead to learn, and teach them all,
From the ones so young, those carry a gun,
To the ones so old, who ought to drop the weapon.

All I ever wanted, was to go to school and play with my friends,
and return back a happier and a wiser person.

All I wanted, was to live a regular life that is promised to a child,
when they are ushered with hope, happiness and reliance,
to grow up in this mundane world and be successful,
and learn to give it back in right time, to be more respectful.

All I wanted, was to be fearless, and do the right.
To live by the truth, and walk with my head held high.

All I wanted, was to fulfill my dreams and reach my destiny,
The thing that people call the motive of life,
But, when I walked through the school corridor to take a test,
I breathed my last, when I took three bullets in my chest.

My father wasn't allowed to weep, and my mother couldn't cry.
As I was left blood stained, with empty shells, abandoned, to die.
All I ever wanted, was a life that was free,
all that I eventually got, was what they had decided for me.


(Above inserted pic is taken from a video: Jawab de )